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Bulugh al-Maram 1231

Aishah (radiyallahu anha) said: “O my nephew, the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) would not prefer some of us over others regarding the division of the time he would spend with us.…

Urwahnarrated it
Hasangraded hasan by Al-Albani
2names in the chain
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قَالَ: «قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ: يَا اِبْنَ أُخْتِي! كَانَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: لَا يُفَضِّلُ بَعْضَنَا عَلَى بَعْضٍ فِي اَلْقَسْمِ مِنْ مُكْثِهِ عِنْدَنَا، وَكَانَ قَلَّ يَوْمٌ إِلَّا وَهُوَ يَطُوفُ عَلَيْنَا جَمِيعًا، فَيَدْنُو مِنْ كُلِّ اِمْرَأَةٍ مِنْ غَيْرِ مَسِيسٍ، حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ اَلَّتِي هُوَ يَوْمُهَا، فَيَبِيتَ عِنْدَهَا»

Aishah (radiyallahu anha) said: “O my nephew, the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) would not prefer some of us over others regarding the division of the time he would spend with us. It was very rare that he would not visit us all, and come near each of his wives without having intercourse with her, till he reached the one whose day it was, and spent the night with her.”.

Bulugh al-Maram 1231, Book 8, Marriage, Hadith 109. 1 min read
The note in this edition

حسن. رواه أحمد (6 / 107 - 108)، وأبو داود (2135)، والحاكم (2 / 186) وتمامه كما عند أبي داود: «ولقد قالت سودة بنت زمعة حين أسنت، وفرقت أن يفارقها رسول الله (صلى الله عليه وسلم): يا رسول الله! يومي لعائشة، فقبل ذلك رسول الله (صلى الله عليه وسلم) منها. قالت: نقول في ذلك: أنزل الله تعالى فيها وفي أشباهها (أراه قال:) «وإن امرأة خافت من بعلها نشوزا». قلت: وقوله: «من غير مسيس»، أي: من غير جماع، كما جاء في بعض الروايات: «بغير وقاع»، وإلا فاللمس والتقبيل لا شيء فيهما، وعلى ذلك أيضا تدل رواية أحمد، ففيها: «فيدنو ويلمس من غير مسيس»

What it means

This Hadīth highlights the justice of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) in dividing the nights among his wives. He did not favor anyone over the other.

‘Ā'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) mentioned that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) used to pass by his wives every night, and he would fondle his wives and spend some intimate time with them without having sexual intercourse. He did that to comfort them, and out of maintaining good companionship with them.

He used to spend the night at the house of the one whose turn was up. When Sawdah bint Zam‘ah grew older, she became worried that the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) might leave her, but she wanted to stay as his wife and keep that honor, being a Mother of the Believers and one of the wives of the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him).

Therefore, she decided to give up her day to ‘Ā'ishah, and the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) accepted that from her. Then, ‘Ā'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) mentioned that the verse: {If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband's part…} [Sūrat An-Nisā': 128] was revealed concerning this situation and others like it.

From the Encyclopedia of Translated Prophetic Hadiths, hadeethenc.com.

The chain

Who passed it on, from Ibn Hajar back to the one who was there.

  1. 1Ibn HajarCompiler, died 852 AH
  2. 2Urwah ibn al-JadFrom, Companion, died 61 AH

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